calendar_todayJanuary 15schedule5 min readauto_awesomeDisciplinebookmarkThe Dichotomy of Control

"The things which are much valued in life are empty and rotten and trifling."

schedule5 min readMarcus Aurelius

In December 1914, a massive explosion rocked West Orange, New Jersey. Ten buildings in Thomas Edison's legendary factory complex were engulfed in flames. Chemical fires burned green and yellow, shooting hundreds of feet into the air.

Edison was 67 years old. The fire was destroying more than just bricks and mortar. It was burning the prototypes, the records, and the experiments of a lifetime. The damage exceeded $23 million in today's dollars, and the buildings were only insured for a fraction of that.

Edison's son Charles found his father standing near the blaze. Charles expected to see a broken man weeping over the ruins of his empire.

Instead, he found Edison watching the fire with a look of childlike wonder. Edison shouted over the roar of the flames, "Where's your mother? Go get her. Tell her to get her friends. They'll never see a fire like this again."

Charles was shocked. He asked, "What?" Edison replied, "It's all right. We've just got rid of a lot of rubbish."

The next morning, walking through the ashes, Edison looked at his employees and said, "There is great value in disaster. All our mistakes are burned up. Thank God we can start anew." Edison understood what Marcus Aurelius meant. The buildings, the prototypes, and the money were just "things." They were neutral matter. They weren't "good" or "evil." They were just fuel for a fire.

Most people value these things as if they were part of their soul. When the car gets scratched or the house floods, they feel a spiritual injury. Marcus reminds us that what the mob values, the money, fame, and luxury, is often "rotten" because it decays. It's "trifling" because it doesn't last.

Edison didn't cry because his character wasn't in the building. His creativity, his resilience, and his genius were safe inside him. The fire only burned the "empty" shell. By treating the disaster as a spectacle rather than a tragedy, Edison proved that he owned his possessions. They didn't own him.

Errors & Corrections

  • Don't worship the container. We often value the house more than the home, or the wedding more than the marriage. The house is just wood and stone. The home is the love inside it. If the house burns but the family survives, you've lost nothing of real value.
  • Don't grieve for what can be replaced. If you can buy another one, it isn't worth a single tear. Save your grief for the loss of people and time, which are the only things that cannot be replaced.
  • Don't let the things own you. If you're terrified of scratching your new car, you don't own the car. The car owns you. You're the servant polishing the master's shoes. Use your things. Let them get scratched. That means you're living.

Applications to Modern Life

Work

You might lose a major file or a laptop crashes with unsaved work. The panic sets in. The error is believing that the "work" was in the file. It wasn't. The work is in your neural pathways that created the file. You still know how to do it. Recreating it will likely make it better because "all the mistakes are burned up." The loss is an opportunity for a cleaner version 2.0.

Leadership

A leader who obsesses over the "furniture" of the office, the corner suite, or the expensive chair, is focusing on the trifling. When a budget cut takes these perks away, a weak leader feels disrespected. A Stoic leader doesn't care. They can lead from a folding table in the basement. Their authority comes from their competence, not their decor.

Athleticism & Sport

Equipment breaks. A tennis player snaps a string. A runner blows out a shoe. The amateur throws a tantrum and blames the gear. The professional calmly grabs the spare and keeps playing. They know the magic isn't in the racket. The magic is in the training and mentality they've built through practice. The gear is just neutral matter to be used and discarded.

Politics

We fight viciously over symbols of flags, statues, and monuments. We act as if destroying a statue destroys history. But history is what happened. A statue is just a rock cut by a man. Marcus would remind us not to confuse the symbol with the reality. Focus on building a just society today rather than fighting over the "rotten" artifacts of the past.

Social Media

We value the "likes" and the "shares" as if they were currency. But they're just bits of data on a server owned by a corporation. They're the definition of "empty." If your account is deleted tomorrow, you still exist. Your friends still know you. Don't trade your real time for fake points.

Interpersonal Relationships

Couples often fight over things. Who broke the vase? Who scratched the car? These fights damage the relationship, which is alive, to protect an object, which is dead. Never sacrifice a person for a thing. If the vase breaks, sweep it up. It was already broken the moment it was made. The relationship is what matters.

Maxims

  • It's just stuff; let it burn.
  • My character is fireproof.
  • Don't weep for what can be bought.

In-depth Concepts

Adiaphora (Indifferents)

Stoics classify everything outside of virtue as Adiaphora. This includes health, wealth, and property. They're "indifferent" because they don't contribute to Eudaimonia (happiness/flourishing) on their own. You can be happy without them, and you can be miserable with them.

Hyle (Matter)

Marcus often breaks things down into their Hyle or raw material to strip away their glamour. A purple robe is just sheep's wool dyed with shellfish blood. A vintage wine is just rotting grape juice. By seeing the "rotten" reality of luxury, we break its spell over us.