calendar_todayJanuary 8schedule5 min readauto_awesomeDisciplinebookmarkThe Dichotomy of Control

"He who has a vehement desire for posthumous fame does not consider that every one of those who remember him will himself also die very soon."

schedule5 min readMarcus Aurelius

Vincent van Gogh produced over 2,100 artworks in just over a decade. He painted with a frantic, desperate intensity to create works like Starry Night, Sunflowers, and The Bedroom. Today, his paintings sell for over $100 million each. Museums are built just to house his sketches.

But while he was alive, Vincent van Gogh was a "failure." He sold only one painting in his lifetime, The Red Vineyard, for 400 francs. That's about $2,000 today. His brother Theo had to support him financially. The art critics ignored him or mocked his crude, thick brushstrokes. His neighbors in Arles called him "the red-headed madman" and petitioned the police to have him evicted.

If Van Gogh had measured his life by his reputation, he would have stopped painting. Why continue when the market says you're worthless? But Van Gogh didn't paint for the market. He painted because he had to. He painted to capture the light he saw in his head. He wrote to Theo, "I am not working for myself alone, I believe in the absolute necessity for a new art of color." He separated the Work from the Reception.

The Work was up to him. He could control the yellow paint, the canvas, and the composition. The Reception was up to the critics and the public. He had zero control over that. So he poured everything into the Work and left the Reception to history.

Marcus Aurelius warns us that chasing fame, even posthumous fame, is a trap. Who are you trying to impress? People who will be dead in 50 years? And the people who remember them will also die. Fame is just a cloud of noise that eventually dissipates into the silence of eternity.

The only thing that's real is the act itself. The brushstroke, the kindness, the honest day's work. If you do it well, you have already received your reward.

Errors & Corrections

  • Don't mistake "likes" for value. In the digital age, we think something is good only if it trends. This is false. McDonald's sells more burgers than a Michelin-star chef, but that doesn't make the burger better. Quality is internal, popularity is external.
  • Don't work for the eulogy. Many people live their lives trying to curate what will be said at their funeral. Marcus reminds us that the people at your funeral will soon be dead too. Live for the now, for the virtue you can practice today, not for a memory that will fade.
  • Don't let silence stop you. If you launch a project and nobody claps, keep going. If the work is good and true, the silence doesn't invalidate it. Van Gogh painted in silence for ten years.

Applications to Modern Life

Work

You deliver a great presentation, but the client is distracted and offers no praise. The error is to feel like you failed. The Stoic correction is to audit your own performance. Did you prepare? Was the data accurate? Did you speak clearly? If yes, then you succeeded. The client's reaction is "noise." You can't deposit their praise in the bank, and their silence doesn't erase your competence.

Leadership

A leader often has to make unpopular decisions. If you're obsessed with your "approval rating," you'll delay necessary cuts or avoid tough conversations. You become a politician, not a leader. The Stoic leader accepts that they might be hated for a while in order to save the ship. They value the health of the organization over their own popularity.

Athleticism & Sport

The crowd boos you. Or worse, they ignore you. A fragile athlete needs the cheer to perform. A disciplined athlete performs for the standard. They run just as hard in an empty gym as they do in a stadium. As Michael Jordan said, "Champions are made when no one is watching." The standard is the boss, not the fan.

Social Media

You delete a post because it didn't get enough engagement in the first hour. This is the definition of slavery. You're letting an algorithm dictate your expression. Leave it up. If it was true when you wrote it, it's still true now. Stand by your words even if the room is empty.

Politics

Politicians often shape-shift to match the polls. They have no core, only a mirror reflecting the mob. A Statesman like Marcus holds to principles even when the mob is angry. It's better to be voted out for doing the right thing than to be re-elected for doing the wrong thing. The first leaves you with your dignity. The second leaves you with a job but no soul.

Interpersonal Relationships

You do a favor for a friend, expecting a big "Thank you." They don't say it. You feel resentful. "After all I did for them!" This proves you didn't do it for them. You did it for the applause. Do the kindness because it's who you are. If they thank you, good. If not, you still acted according to your nature.

Maxims

  • The work is the reward.
  • Fame is the smoke; virtue is the fire.
  • Do it for the deed, not the applause.

In-depth Concepts

Hysterophamia (Posthumous Fame)

Marcus uses this specific term to mock the obsession with being remembered. He points out the irony: we care deeply about the opinions of future generations, people we will never meet, while often ignoring the needs of the present generation. It's a form of vanity that steals energy from the living to pay the dead.