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Is this mine or not?

Your first task is to distinguish between what is within your control—your own judgments and choices—and what is not, such as external events and other people's actions. Focus on mastering your internal responses rather than trying to control externals.

Epictetus — Discourses 2.5.4

The fruit of education is freedom

Through disciplined judgment and training, education yields the ultimate freedom in tranquility, fearlessness, and autonomy from external circumstances.

Epictetus — Discourses 2.1.21

Guard your time

Most people waste their lives in pointless grief, foolish joy, greedy desire, and social amusements, leaving little of their own time to themselves. Guard your hours carefully to avoid dying before your time.

Seneca — On the Brevity of Life 3.3b

Harmony within universal reason

Achieve a well-flowing life by aligning your judgments and actions with reality and virtue. Accept what happens and act justly, cultivating inner harmony.

Chrysippus — Lives of the Eminent Philosophers 7.1.88

Fortune is unstable, so character must be steady

External circumstances are fleeting; true strength comes from steady character. Prosperity and adversity both test and reveal our virtue.

Seneca — Thyestes 613

Freedom comes from right judgment

True freedom arises from correct judgments about what is within your control versus what is not. Rely on your own reasoned choices rather than external validations like reputation, money, or status.

Epictetus — Discourses 3.26

Assignment vs performance

Distinguish between what life assigns you and how you perform your duties. Embrace your roles with virtue, regardless of their nature or duration.

Epictetus — Enchiridion 17

The universe is change. Life is opinion.

Embrace change as natural and focus on your judgments and actions. Separate impressions from assent, and live by virtue rather than external outcomes.

Marcus Aurelius — Meditations 4.3

Historicize, universalize, prioritize

Adopt a broader perspective by historicizing and universalizing events, then prioritize virtue above all.

Marcus Aurelius — Meditations 4.32

Distress is judgment, not event

External events don't cause distress; your judgment of them does, and you can change that judgment immediately.

Marcus Aurelius — Meditations 8.47

Only choices are good or evil

Good and evil reside solely in our own choices and judgments. By confining our definitions of good and evil to what we can control, we eliminate blame toward others and external circumstances, fostering inner peace and responsibility.

Marcus Aurelius — Meditations 6.41

Don't gripe in public

Stop complaining about public life; either act constructively or keep silent, but don't poison yourself or others with grievances.

Marcus Aurelius — Meditations 8.9

Quiet Hands

Give honors publicly to inspire virtue, but give aid privately to preserve dignity; true generosity frees people rather than binding them to you.

Seneca — On Benefits II.9-10

For One Another

Serve the common good by helping others improve or patiently enduring their faults.

Marcus Aurelius — Meditations 8.59

Brotherly Virtue

Humans are social beings who thrive through shared work; practice brotherly virtue by contributing to the common good and making your household a place of support.

Musonius Rufus — Lectures 14.9

No Bitter Favors

Give without talk or tally; reminders turn gifts into debts and poison both giver and receiver.

Seneca — On Benefits II.11

The Best Revenge

When wronged, refuse to mirror vice; the highest answer to injury is to act justly and stay clean in character.

Marcus Aurelius — Meditations 6.6

Spare and Be Spared

Mercy, rightly used, preserves your character, strengthens authority, and prevents cycles of harm. You spare another, and you spare yourself.

Seneca — On Clemency I (general)

If You Would Be Loved

Love as a practiced disposition toward others; to be truly loved, become the kind of person who actively loves through just and generous conduct.

Hecato via Seneca — Moral Letters 9.6

Fitting Gifts

Give in a way that fits the person, time, and place; a well-chosen humble gift is better than an expensive but thoughtless one.

Seneca — On Benefits II